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How To Send Nudes Safely


Not Your Porn is a campaign that is currently collaborating with activists, non-profits, lawyers and politicians, in the UK and internationally, to work towards a world where distributing ‘Revenge Porn’, child abuse images and stolen content from sex workers is taken seriously as a digital crime.

They are working to protect all victims - past, present and future.

Consent must always be mandatory.

Exchanging nudes are an important part of the way we experience intimacy with other people. There is nothing wrong with sharing nudes as long as it is done consensually. Here is a breakdown of what you need to know to have the best time and to keep yourself safe. 

How Can I Send Nudes Safely?

Can I check if there are images of me online without my consent? 

Yes, you can. You can conduct something called a reverse image search. This tool allows you to the websites or platforms which are hosting the image you are looking for. Although, keep in mind - this is not an open ended search on all images of you on the internet and so it has its limitations. 

In order to conduct one, you will need an original copy of the image you are searching for. Then you need to open the search engine with the reverse image search tool. There are a number of reverse image search engines such as Google Images (click on the camera icon to the right of the search bar), Google Lens (for searching on a mobile device) or Bing. Once you have opened the search engine with this feature, you will be able to drop the image into the search bar. If no images are found it will state ‘No other sizes of this image found’. If there are images, it will state ‘find other sizes of this image’. By clicking ‘all sizes’, this will take you to a page with search results. 

Please be careful if you choose to do this, though.It can be a very distressing process to find images of yourself online and so it might be a good idea to get someone you trust to help you.

What should I do if things go wrong? 

If you discover that someone is posting your nudes online without your consent, it is easier said than done, but try not to panic. Get in touch with someone you trust who can support you through this.The following steps are here to guide you through the initial stages when someone has shared images/videos of you without your consent:

Step 1: Collect evidence

If you know where the content has been posted, be sure to take screenshots of where it is: social media or websites. This can then be used for the police as evidence if you choose to make a report. If you are able to, copy the URL links to where the content is posted, this will make finding the content easier for reporting to the websites later.If you can, and you feel able to, download the video or picture or save a pdf copy of the website page. If you have access to the video file, some websites may be able to have your content “digitally fingerprinted” later to prevent others uploading the video / picture again. It is also completely okay to ask someone you trust to help you gather this evidence, if you feel unable to do so yourself.If the content is being shared by anonymous accounts, for example on Instagram or Facebook, screenshot pictures of the account and any information which is visible on the profile. This is crucial for identifying the perpetrator later, if you decide you want to go to the police.

Step 2: Reporting content & getting professional support 

If you feel like you are able to, you can report it to the website. Each website will have its own reporting policy, you will need to check on the individual website for details of these. Please be aware that some websites may ask for your picture and your identification card: do not give them this information.

The Revenge Porn Helpline (0345 6000 459) is a free service that can assist you with the removal of images and they are seen as “trusted flaggers” so do not need such identification. They believe that asking for such information only perpetuates the act of being violated.

You can also report it to the police on their non-emergency number, 101, and give them as much evidence as you can of what has happened. It may be useful beforehand to write out a timeline of what has happened, where the content has been shared and who alerted you to it.

Furthermore, if you come across non consensual content online of yourself or someone else, you can report it to Report Harmful Content.

Step 3: How to stay safe going forward 

For most people we work with, their first priority is getting the images/videos of them removed. Unfortunately, the nature of the internet means that non consensual content can resurface anytime. 

I hope it never happens, but in the event that images/videos of you are shared non consensually more than once, you should go through the above process each time. 

Here are some other things to consider: 

Set up Google Alerts 

This can be a helpful way to flag where the non consensual content of you is online, especially considering that the internet is overwhelmingly huge. Click here to set up google alerts. The Revenge Porn Helpline has some excellent advice on how to set them up, find it here.

Strengthening your privacy settings 

This is a useful way to limit people from contacting you, whether by the person who has shared the image non consensually or third parties who contact you as a result of the non consensual sharing. 

You can block accounts and associated accounts, set your account to private and a host of other options. Resources which might be of interest are these guides from Refuge and from the Revenge Porn Helpline

Contact #NotYourPorn 

We are not a service provider at #NotYourPorn, but we act as a triage to help find you the right services. We are also in the process of setting up a survivor support network so that people can feel supported and connect to others who have also experienced non consensual sharing. Find our contact details here. You are not alone, we exist to help you and to fight for your rights. So to sum up:

consent + knowledge + safety = having a good old time!!!

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