As you can probably guess, I love a sex toy. They can be great for those who have never orgasmed, those who want to spice it up in the bedroom or even for those who just want to give their hand a break!
Slowly sex toys & talking about self-pleasure is becoming less of a taboo – especially for women and according to Statista, 82% of women in America own some sort of sex toy!
Solo play especially for women has always been a taboo but it’s certainly not something we should be shy to explore - thanks to the health benefits alone. Apart from the really great feeling we can have when we masturbate, spending time with yourself can help improve your pelvic floor, reduce pain & stress, Lower cortisol levels and even stimulate collagen growth (a free glow-up!).
Sex toys can help people discover what they like and in turn, communicate this to their partner(s) - It's a cliche, but communication really is the key when it comes to most things, not just great orgasms.
The sex toy industry is set to reach 80.7 billion U.S. dollars by 2023 (vs 10.6 billion in 2016). This can mean its a bit of a minefield when you first dive in but i've got you!
Remember, I have discounts for all the sex toys below👇
My Favourite Beginner/Staple Toys
Scroll for my sex toy recommendations that won't break the bank.
Bullet Vibrators
These are my #1 pick for your first sex toy!
Not only is this toy great for when you’re alone, but it can also ramp up your sex life with your partner(s).
The ‘Bullet’ is a great choice as it is small with adjustable speed, less daunting than most, and usually rather cheap. There are many ways you can use this toy, so give it a go and do what feels right for you.
Suction Cup Dildos.
A dildo is what you probably think of when you think of a sex toy.
These can be great for those who can climax from penetration but also for those who find vibrations too intense.
Now add a suction cup to it and who needs a man?! (Joking, obviously...). These are great fun as they can be thrown at many surfaces for you to back up onto.
Rabbit Vibrators
Rabbit Vibrators are almost a household name thanks to Sex in the City.
Rabbit Vibrators are intense - in an amazing way.
Typically identified through its adorable bunny ears, rabbits are great for those who enjoy multiple stimulation - clitoris and g-spot.
Clit Suckers
‘Air pulse technology toys’ or as there more commonly known as, Clit Suckers are changing the game.
These are a relatively 'new' invention but are quickly taking over the sex toy market.
Air pulse technology uses non-contact pressure-wave technology to provide feelings of suction and pulsations, similar to someone giving you head (oral sex).
Fleshlights/Penis Sleeves
A Fleshlight or ‘Penis Sleeve’ is designed to stimulate and fit around the penis to aid masturbation or sometimes to simulate a real vagina - similar to a dildo for vulvas.
These can be a nice change to the old hand - make sure to use lube and clean it after every use!!
Cock Rings
Sitting at the base of the penis, the vibrating cock ring teases, tantalises and satisfies both you and your partner (if they have a penis).
Many come with grooves or ears to stimulate the clitoris – almost like a real-life rabbit!
Butt Plugs
A butt plug is a type of anal toy, which typically plugs your bottom, but with a better purpose.
They are usually shaped like a teardrop and have a large base so that they are not sucked too far away – your butt hole is a vacuum, please don’t shove anything up it without a flared base + always use lube!
Your butt is packed with nerve endings and is very sensitive which is why they can feel great.
As you insert the butt plug, it restricts the size of the vaginal canal, thus raises the likelihood that your partner(s) can hit the G-Spot, your rectum is also a path to the prostate!
Anal Beads
Anal beads are the unsung hero of butt play.
Unlike a butt plug, which is often used in preparation for anal sex, and is only meant to go in and stay in place, anal beads are designed to stimulate inside the body and specifically to move in an out of the butt - like a human beyblade!
This stimulation provides multiple pleasurable sensations, like having a muscle massaged.
The beads can be removed at varying speeds, depending on the desired effect, and can amplify the intensity of orgasm or even climax from just that.
How Do I Use Sex Toys?
So you've bagged your first or thirty third sex toy, but how do you use them?
Bullet Vibrators
♡ On your Clitoris.
♡ In your Vagina, for those who enjoy penetration.
♡ On your Perineum or the tip of the Penis.
♡ Coupled up with Penetration.
♡ Your partner could hold it for you too.
Suction Cup Dildos
♡ In your Vagina, for those who enjoy penetration.
♡ Used in Pegging with someone who has a Penis.
♡ Coupled up with a clitoris focused toy.
♡ Even double penetration.
Rabbit Vibrators
♡ In your Vagina with the ears on your Clitoris (some can squirt with this toy!)
♡ Used in Mutual Masturbation.
♡ Used in the bedroom by your partner(s).
Clit Suckers
♡ Spread your lips and place over your Clitoris.
♡ Used in Mutual Masturbation.
♡ Used in the bedroom by your partner(s).
Fleshlights
♡ With Lube, moving up and down over the penis.
♡ Used in Mutual Masturbation.
♡ Used in the bedroom by your partner(s).
Cock Rings
♡ Place over the penis or toy and sit it at the base. Choose your vibration setting and ride!
♡ Used during sex.
Butt Plugs
♡ Lube up and make sure you're relaxed.
♡ Couple up with vaginal sex.
♡ Use it as prep for Anal.
♡ Use it on your own.
Anal Beads
♡ Lube up and make sure you're relaxed.
♡ Couple up with vaginal sex.
♡ Use it on your own.
♡ Used in the bedroom by your partner(s).
"Sex without lube is like a roast dinner without gravy, it's ok but the meats a bit dry & it's much better drowned in the stuff" - Fran Bushe