If you want to try anal sex for the first time, here are my top tips to get the most out of it!
Communicate First.
Of course, relaxing is is easier said than done. Try and talk about it before it happens so it’s not such a shock, read up about it and see if it’s something your partner is down for.
Make sure you are both down for it and if you are receiving, make sure you actually want to try rather than that you feel pressure or want to please your partner.
Breathe, Breathe Breathe.
The key to enjoying anything that goes in your butt is to be relaxed. Your Anus tightens when you are nervous even in a non-sexual setting, and if it’s tight there’s no hope and if you do still try it’s going to hurt.
Start Small
Don’t go straight into full-on penis in butt sex. That will be a little bit of a shock. Play by yourself or with your partner with toys or fingers first.
Get your body used to something going in instead of just out and take your time.
If it hurts at any point, stop.
If you have a penis and want to try pegging with your partner, do the above but also make sure you go for small toys with the strap rather than something giant!
Lube It Up.
If you’ve read anything else from me, you’ll know I’m a BIG advocate for lube. It makes everything better and when it comes to butt stuff it’s a MUST.
Your anus is not self-lubricating.
Mess
Make sure you’re fairly empty and that you are not unwell before partaking in anal sex. This rule has always worked for me, but if the mess is really something you are worried about, maybe douche or lay a towel down.
You both know what comes out, and if either of you can’t cope with the possibility then you should probably avoid it!
Control
This is my favourite tip that I’ve found works wonders for pleasurable anal sex.
If you are receiving make sure you’re the one that’s in control of the speed, angle, depth etc. Whether that be you pushing back or you getting on top, whatever works for you.
If you are giving, make sure this happens and that you don’t push or stick anything in aggressively.
