If you want to try anal sex for the first time, here are my top tips to get the most out of it!
Communicate First.
Of course, relaxing is easier said than done. Try and talk about it before it happens so it’s not such a shock. Read up about it and see if it’s something your partner is down for.
Make sure you are both down for it and if you are receiving, make sure you want to try rather than feeling pressured or because your partner wants it.
Breathe, Breathe Breathe.
The key to enjoying anything that goes in your butt is to be relaxed. Your anus tightens when you are nervous, even in a non-sexual setting, and if it’s tight there’s no hope. If you do still try, it’s going to hurt.
Start Small
Don’t go straight into the full-on penis-in-butt sex. That will be a little bit of a shock. Play with your partner or by yourself with toys or fingers first.
Get your body used to something going in, instead of just things going out. Most importantly, take your time.
If it hurts at any point, stop.
If you have a penis and want to try pegging with your partner, do the above making sure to go for smaller toys and a strap, rather than something giant!
Lube It Up.
If you’ve read anything else from me, you’ll know I’m a BIG advocate for lube. It makes everything better and when it comes to butt stuff, it’s a MUST.
Your anus is not self-lubricating.
Mess
Make sure you’re fairly empty and that you are not unwell before partaking in anal sex. This rule has always worked for me, but if the mess is something you are worried about, maybe douche or lay down a towel.
You both know what comes out, and if either of you can’t cope with the possibility then you should probably avoid it!
Control
This is my favourite tip that I’ve found works wonders for pleasurable anal sex.
If you are receiving make sure you’re the one that’s in control of the speed, angle, depth etc. Whether that be you pushing back or you getting on top, whatever works for you.
If you are giving, make sure this happens and that you don’t push or stick anything in aggressively.